• Stamets@lemmy.worldOP
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    7 months ago

    Oh my god really? Oh thank you so much! I just had to start doing it! Holy shit! Incredible! Astounding! You will surely be rich and famous. Have you heard of Oprah? Talk to her! Maybe she can give you your own show with nonsensical useless opinions that demonstrate a complete lack of knowledge on the subject and a tacit hostility to anything you don’t understand!

    Pick a random direction to off and proceed to fuck in that direction, please.

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      7 months ago

      I have clinical depression, so I’m essentially an amalgamation of 1st and 2nd pick. I know, it’s a mess, I’m not okay with it, but when I eventually clean, I still feel like shit because it doesn’t solve my problems. The devious thing is that I’m fully aware beforehand that tidying up and cleaning will not make a difference, but while doing it, I have that naive hope that it will.

      The amount of times I’ve heard “just go to therapy” or the even less helpful “just look at the bright side of life” is staggering. People really seem to think I enjoy hating myself and hoping that I don’t wake up tomorrow.

      Oh, another fun argument is “look at some horrible shit that happened to someone, you have it way better”. I’m sorry that seeing others’ misery does not make me feel better.

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        7 months ago

        look at some horrible shit that happened to someone, you have it way better

        I hate this more than anything… Yes I get that people are literally dying. Now I hate myself on my normal level of hating myself and I hate myself for not being able to be happy when there are people literally dying right now. Thanks.

        My cousin was always the “there are children starving in Africa” types. It doesn’t ever help. Just don’t.

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        7 months ago

        That’s why I like Unfuck your Habitat. There was a blog, a book and an app.

        It talks about how cleaning is morally neutral, and doing something is better than doing nothing. I don’t have any affiliation but I find that 20/10s (or even 10/20s where you clean for 10 and break for 20) allow just enough measurable progress for me to feel as though I’ve accomplished something, to put the “you’re useless” thought to bed.

        Of course this doesn’t help if you’re not ready for it, but know that you’re not a bad person for having a messy living space. I’m sorry that your disorder makes things hard for you.

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          7 months ago

          for me a pretty big thing that helps is keeping a space that’s easy to keep clean. Segmenting things, and making storage of them super trivial. The less time i have to spend cleaning something up, the less messy it’s going to be in general.

      • Gormadt@lemmy.blahaj.zone
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        7 months ago

        Actually their comment was removed and they were given a ban

        Basically they said “Just start somewhere, it’s not that hard.” And then proceeded to say ADHD is no excuse for laziness.

        So yeah, banned for rage baiting/trolling

      • Stamets@lemmy.worldOP
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        7 months ago

        I’m sorry, but shouldn’t you have used your executive functions to do the task of fucking off?

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            7 months ago

            Listen Mr. Big Brain, I have ADHD and I keep a messy home, don’t like it per say. But it’s certainly not a matter of laziness, I’m interested in what I desire the most. I follow that, this has led me to career in the military, through college (thanks hyper focus as a symptom), learning languages, learning to program, embedded IoT design, fitness, and so many other beautiful things.

            Yeah, I guess it sucks knowing you can fuck off at will, however I’d rather have my inconsistent adhd with unlimited energy than whatever you have going on that’s led to your shitty behavior.

            Sorry my floor is cluttered, it’s quite literally so low on my totem pole that it’s barely a concern, but sure keep deriving your vain superiority from that.

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        Wow, you are a complete tool. This isn’t even about adhd anymore. You have the self awareness of a stop sign.