• grte@lemmy.ca
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    I couldn’t imagine marrying someone with totally opposing political views. Disagreements on some issues sure, but totally opposing political views is essentially like having totally opposing values, morals and ethics to a degree, etc. Base things that play a role in determining compatibility.

    • ThePowerOfGeek@lemmy.world
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      Dating someone with opposing views is the easier of two situations people can find themselves in.

      The harder situation is when you date and marry someone with similar views to yours, but then 5, 10, 15, etc years into the marriage they get radicalized by family members or YouTube. And suddenly their opinions change overnight and you are legally bound to an angry, hostile stranger.

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        The good old dehu-Manosphere. Malignant, cancerous trash run by grifters and signal boosted by insecure mysognists.

        Edit: I see we have some fans of Joe Rogaine, Jordan Small-Peterson, and or Andrew T-hate on here.

    • some_guy@lemmy.sdf.org
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      I thought I was going crazy when this person I went on a couple dates with told me she was gonna pursue the other guy. She had said he was a Trump supporter and was offended at some things he’d said to her. Must have had she face of a movie star and a genius in bed. I was pretty offended, but whatever.

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    Yeah, if my wife didn’t think other people deserved the right to exist it’s would put quite the strain on our relationship.

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    Who is funding this calibre of research, they also found dogs are more likely to bite if you kick them in the head.

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      In the western scientific model, this is how we differentiate truths from anecdotes and assumptions. Not sure why this needs to be repeated in every thread about the results of research.

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        No one is casting aspersions on the scientific method or the value of research, what is questionable in this case is that the conclusion simply follows naturally from the hypothesis. The proposition here is that people who have opposing political views are more likely to be antagonistic to each other, that is a tautology.

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          No one is casting aspersions on the scientific method or the value of research

          In your original comment, it seemed like you were questioning why the study was funded, then compared it to another obvious cause-effect about kicking a dog. Did I misunderstand?

          the conclusion simply follows naturally from the hypothesis

          The conclusion might have confirmed your personal hypothesis, but we don’t assume that any conclusion “naturally follows” a hypothesis without measuring it.

          The proposition here is that people who have opposing political views are more likely to be antagonistic to each other, that is a tautology.

          The way you phrased it is a tautology, but the study didn’t measure antagonism. It measured whether couples broke up or not.

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          And yet, you’ll see many people posting elsewhere on social media that it shouldn’t be relevant.

          Can’t imagine trying to share a life with someone who didn’t share my values, but there seems to be a contingent that think that other things should be more important.

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    Why would anyone marry a person who openly hates women, minorities, LGBTQ+, and anybody they deem different?

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      Because one or the other person in the relationship isn’t being honest which happens quote frequently. People in relationships lie by omission all the time.

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      Are you trying to imply that the people you disagree with politically - presumably those to the right of center - all fit into the cartoon caricature you just painted? The things you listed aren’t even political issues but social ones.

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    Couples with opposing views on many things face higher risk of separation, is this a surprise to anyone?

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    Several comments on here read like prime examples of “anyone who opposes me is a fascist”. Of course in conservative forums it’s similarly “anyone who opposes me is a lunatic Marxist”. Try having a relationship across aisles in this climate!

    The study took 30 years to conclude but I wonder whether the current political climate makes it even more unlikely that people across political divides can form really any kind of relationship. I know I have found it difficult to maintain a relationship with anyone staunchly conservative even if political leaning has never been a main criterion for me in mate selection or in friendships.

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      The current political climate is different than before. It not falls along the lines of empathy. I don’t see how marriages survive that in a healthy way.

      That isn’t to say they’ll all divorce. Divorce rates are very tightly coupled to economic well-being and children. But I do think a lot more people are staying in horrible marriages if their partner has no empathy.

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    Unless your a true progressive, leftist, socialist, ACAB, ANTIFA outside the 2 regressive parties your views are mostly the same as they preserve cancerous capitalism .

    Who would anyone be so dumb to marry /be with someone in any relationship configuration of opposite mind?

    This study was a waste of money that could the have gone community and medical care because its that DUH alread established knowledge!!!