Someone gave some advice on a forum or a blog or something a long time ago that really stuck with me and completely altered my outlook about social media and interacting with people via the internet in general:
Before you hit “send”, ask yourself whether this is for your benefit, or that of those who will see it.
I basically stopped using socials after that, because I seldom thought of anything that followed this rule, and my feed was so full of garbage from people who also didn’t, but saw fit to post it anyway. The internet has given society an ego masturbation problem.
Yep. Me sometimes. Like you know the answer. It’s simple and logical. The other person is obviously wrong and defending their position badly… But then you realise it’s stupid to try and waste your time on a subject you don’t even care about, to a person who cannot be educated.
Hello ADHDers! It really is a health management skill to catch yourself and pull away. The worst is when you do care about the topic and you know you’re mismanaging your time, it doesn’t actually matter, but you can’t not “finish it so at least it’s out there”
Yup. I do this 100%. But mostly it’s because sometimes I get so hot on the subject, it feels good to get it out there and then I worry I was too brash about it. A trick I use is to leave the comment written on my phone in the background. Maybe I’ll send it, but more often than not I clear it out when I clean up my background apps and go, “Well, that was decided for me.”
Yep.
Flippant, mildly humorous comment, one sentence: (2,345 👍) (123💬)
Well thought out, reliably sourced reply of one to two small paragraphs: (3👍) (0 💬)
Lemmy is actually better on this. I get a lot of upvotes for well thought-out long posts and comments here as well as humorous one-liners. I’ve been pleasantly surprised that people actually take the time to read out my longer posts. On reddit it’d probably just get lost and be another 1 thumber that never got read.
The key is also to make your story interesting. Something that pulls your reader in. Be personal and amicable. Realize you’re talking to real people and speak to those people in your writing. I’m more of a creative writing buff. I managed to eek out 98th percentile for creative writing in my SATs. I love writing. Its my favorite thing to do. I want to be an author. I fucking hate my ADHD. I’ve started a hundred books at least and either bore myself or tell myself its a stupid plot, even though I have friends and family begging for me to finish something.
My early books were written in small notebooks. The old ones that sorta looked like they had cowprint covers with a title on them. They’d get passed around the school for weeks. I’d get them back and people would keep asking me to continue. I never did. Fuck me, I hate ADHD sometimes. But your words are alive. They can heal, hurt, cause laughter and tears, and, above all, words can influence anything. Words are power and, as long as you are careful of that power, you can write any damn length you want.
Honestly, my fear now is AI. I like AI, but I don’t want to write a book and have people claim its AI or AI assisted. I’m regretting not writing one earlier now.
tl;dr: Is k. Writ stuf.
Sorry your comment was too long I got bored halfway through
This
I do this, and I have a “graveyard log” file where I paste my discarded posts and replies.
I’ve wasted SO MANY hours arguing with stupid people on reddit…
I have to remind myself engaging is mostly useless.
I’ve lived through the times when online discussion was considered “just weird internet stuff, not to be taken seriously” and then people grew up and everyone used the internet and it was the frontier of communication and was “shaping all facets of society” and now we’re back at “just weird internet stuff, not to be taken seriously.”
Your engagement is valuable for current or future shareholders of the company owning the platform. It is of paramount importance that you engage as much as possible. Although not enough, we would recommend for example, sleeping 7 hours instead of 8 to make time for engagement such liking/disliking and commenting.
When I read bs here I’m always switching between this and “if no one calls this out, people might assume it’s true”.
Yeah but then the run the risk of arguing with a bot or a troll or a human being uninterested in having a productive discussion.
Yeah, getting out of the discussion at the right point is a skill I did not master yet.
Duty calls. Someone is being wrong on the Internet! 🦸
I usually only do thar when people spread problematic stuff.
To be clear, I ain’t mocking you, I know the feels. Was just referencing
the BibleXKCDSorry, replied in a hurry, hence so short. I cracked a smile at your comment, don’t worry. Also did not know this
psalmxkcd before, thanks.I feel so targeted
“and suddenly you remember most readers of your comment will be bots”
And the few humans there will go “I ain’t reading all that”
I find myself tapping Ctrl+A -> backspace faster than I can react to it myself. Life is too short for waiting for the little cursor to travel all the way back.
About 60% of posts and comments on reddit are made by bots anyway, so except for really niche communities replying doesn‘t add anything to the conversation. I abandoned reddit a few years ago because of this, bulletin boards and small community sites are way more civilized and have no annoying astroturfing campaigns and israel/industrial complex shills.
yeah, no one changes their mind because of words on a screen. if you can’t reach out and slap the shit out of them your point will never get across.
When you’re 20 minutes into an argument on reddit and suddenly get permanently IP banned for saying something that didn’t even break rules
I lost 7 reddit accounts, some over 12 years old, because I quoted someone saying a gendered slur on a serious discussion sub, so that he couldn’t edit his comment. Then i reported it. They banned me for “using a slur” and I appealed and the mods of that community laughed at me and acted like the sewage that they were and then when I appealed to admins I got perma’d.
New accounts made, those got insta-banned. Used VPN and new email, purged all cookies. Insta shadowban. Repeated the process, no VPN, reset IP, cleared everything, got shadowbanned within a day.
Meanwhile there are AI and bots just pouring low-effort content and comments across the entire website. “People” scream racial and sexist rants without facing any consequence. Entire communities of hate and sexism running rampant and gaining members.
It’s enough to make a reasonable person feel unreasonably conspiratorial and suspicious.
Ong bro, the reddit admins are basically just non-existent atp, highly doubt they do any work, cuz the AI based permabans are going haywire
Or you spend all of that time writing a well research comment and then realize that you’ve been shadow banned for pointing out that several sexual health/advice communities on there are run by what seem to be serial rapists….
That’s so messed up man :/
This feels like diffamation and harassment. Stick to the facts if you’re going to expose someone
I had screenshots and receipts. I’m not sharing them here, but I invite you to pick your favorite kinky advice community, and flip through some of those moderators histories.
Well in that case… 👀
Same on Lemmy
Damn, but atleast it’s decentralized here. Getting banned from a server doesn’t get you permabanned, IP banned, device tagged and witch-hunted across the site (as of right now)
Well, it could. You’ll have to switch instances m, but a lot of them could interpret this as ban evading
IP bans are a thing. They’re just not automatic and you get targeted by admins
The net is far more ban happy than it used to, it’s gotten to the point that I don’t feel safe using Steam Forums.
Didn’t care that much on Reddit, but on Lemmy, I feel like instance admins could choose to ban my account at any time, and that’s fucking annoying.
fr man
But IPs are dynamic.
You already lost
Reddit? Nah that’s literally every platform.
If I was the owner of Reddit, i would 100% save in-progress comments, and keep the unsent ones in the database for my enjoyment.
Wasn’t that implemented once? Or was that a browser feature? I swear at some point what you typed into input comment boxes was saved.
If I was the owner of Reddit, i would 100% save in-progress comments, and […]
sell the data to AI companies
