Lucky for me my parents were both “I didn’t save anything for retirement, my kids will take care of me when I’m older”, so I don’t have to suffer through this.
Lucky for me my parents were both “I didn’t save anything for retirement, my kids will take care of me when I’m older”, so I don’t have to suffer through this.
I forgot they have no choice about what products they buy or who they voted for for the last decades.
If you could read, I never have. If I was able to take advantage of things they had and did not utilise, like spare rooms, I would have a higher level of income and savings right now.
I did not have a choice to do better things, they had the choice to provide or deny these things.
They did the minimum needed to stay out of jail. Neglecting children you choose to keep is a crime.
And yet, you’re still here. Your still alive. If you’re not living off your parents income and yet believe your obligated to some of that money, you’re part of the problem. Where do you think that money comes from?
The only thing your proving to me right now is that you don’t want to put in the effort to make more money.
And just an FYI: there are people in our generation that DO make a decent living, working good paying jobs, and NOT living off thier parents money. And do you know what they’re doing right now? I’ll tell you what, they’re NOT bitching about wanting their parents money, because they have the skills necessary to get it themselves.
You tell me congratulations on living in low income? It wasn’t that hard, a simple Google search is all it takes to find out where the low income housing is. And although I DO live in low income housing, I pay full price for it, because I make too much money. Let me reiterate that: $18 an hour is too much money to qualify for low income housing. But, my apartment is a studio that is about 35x35 sqf. You’re damn right it’s cheap, because I don’t need a 4 bedroom 3 bath house to get by. I get by just fine living with my cat. I put my money into my 401K just like my parents did, and guess what? It worked out for them, and they lived during the Great Recession. They lived a life just as hard as yours.
Look, I’m not saying there aren’t greedy, shity parents out there who don’t give a damn about their childrens future. They obviously exist.
But blaming an entire generation(s) on the problems of ours is not going to fix said problems. They aren’t going to give us the money, no matter how much we beg, just like their parents didn’t do for them. The only thing we can do is stop looking at the past, and focus on the future.
I know it looks bleak and the grass is always greener on the other side, but the world is not going to end because our parents decided to splurge on themselves. There are 3rd world countries out there that make even less than any of us do, and they’re surviving. What right do you have to ask someone else for money if you aren’t willing to earn it yourself?
I make great money, around 90k, probably 95 next year. I put over 500$/month to my RRSP.
I wasted a ton of money on the way here. A utilitarian solution would have been, don’t waste that money.
It’s not about entitlement, it’s about being smart. My kids, nieces and nephews will have savings from an early age and will not waste money paying interest if I play my cards right. I think it’s my responsibility to make sure the resources we have are utilised in the best way, being I want all of us to be happy and successful.
Parents say they want their children to be successful, it’s a clown choice to do nothing to support that when there’s the option to do something.
I’m glad you feel that way. And I’m happy you make a decent living. You’re living the life I want to live. If I had the money to support my family that way, I would. But I don’t have that kind of money. And I STILL feel that I am not obligated to any of my parents money. My parents did more than give me money, my parents taught me how to wipe my but, pay a bill, and have a good work ethic. And I believe I will never make an income of 90k. Not for lack of effort, but because I like the job I have, despite it not (nor will it ever) pay well.
But that’s just the way the world works. Some people get better jobs and save it for themselves, and some people save it for their family. I wish everyone could live the latter life, but that’s just not a sane way of thinking.
I won’t ask my parents for money, just like I would never ask you for a hand out. I will earn my way in life, and if that means I’ll never make enough to live comfortably, then I guess that’s the hand I’ve been delt. But not matter what happens, I’ll always be proud to tell everyone: hey, I live on my own. Hey, I bought that car with my own money. No my parents didn’t give me any of it.
Maybe I’m just too conceited to ask for money, but I want to live my life the way I want, and that’s by earning everything I have. On my own. With my own efforts. And if you think that’s a horrible way of living, then maybe I am wrong for thinking that way. Maybe I should tell my parents I deserve their money. But I won’t, and probably never will, and I believe wholeheartedly that my way of thinking is the right way.
I thank you for debating with me over all of this. It’s nice to see things from a different angle. I hope you gleaned some insight as well. I’m not trying to spark anger, just trying to get people to see things from a different perspective. But I think it’s time we dropped the subject, the only thing this conversation is doing at this point, is making us go round and round in circles and letting our emotions take hold of us. Have a good day sir/ma’am and I hope your life continues in the way you want it.
If you want to tell the internet that you win this argument, then I will concede it to you.
Yeah you are definitely using emotionally charged language to talk about this.
You should ask yourself why decisions around money reflect on your self image, ie “conceit” “deserve”.
I apologize if I hurt your feelings or made you feel bad. That was not my intention. I still feel the way I do about the situation, but I’m glad to see things from a different point of view.