• UraniumBlazer@lemm.ee
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    6 months ago

    Maaaan I wish I had an environment like this at home when I was a kid… I always like to imagine how nice the feeling of safety must be for kids with a nice family. Well… For ppl like myself, let’s hope that we can be the family we wish we had…

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      6 months ago

      For ppl like myself, let’s hope that we can be the family we wish we had…

      A thousand times this! My family sucked at being supportive. But if anything, they taught me what not to do as a parent.

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        6 months ago

        But if anything, they taught me what not to do as a parent.

        Hehe yeah, that’s the unfortunate silver lining…

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          On that note, both my parents were physically abused as kids, but never laid a hand on me or my siblings. Like most parents, they weren’t great at parenting, but I am thankful I never had to be really afraid of my parents.

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      Man, growing up I rarely had hobbies. Just study or nothing. Even then, I remember being scared of my mom if I slipped even just a little. That translated to the fact that now, if I get rejected from a job, I feel like worthless garbage. I am unemployed for last 10 months or so and the toll is high.

      I really wish my mom was supportive of me, but well that’s the past, I guess.

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        My mum simply doesn’t understand temporary joblessness. She doesn’t understand that people might need to take some time to figure out who they are and what they want to do, and that jumping from one job to another without any pause is akin to a mental disease.

        It sucks also that the world will not let you tread water, financially I mean. I have two months before my contract ends and already I’m sweating at the prospect of a) not having a job lined up, and b) facing my mother without one.

        (I should add that in all other respects, she is a sweet lady)

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        6 months ago

        No, break the cycle by having kids and raising them properly. Cut your antinatalist BS.

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          that’s not breaking the cycle. that’s continuing the cycle. it’s a cycle.

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              6 months ago

              Oh yeah don’t mind the suffering we have to endure the only thing that matters is KEEPING OUR SPECIES ALIVE for whatever reason . stfu

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                Just because you’re miserable doesn’t mean you have to bring the entirety of humanity down with you. Please get help, you have clearly been hurt. Whether it be therapy, counselling, or finding God. It’s not okay to take it out on others to the point where you are telling people not to reproduce.

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                  Finding God lol where is he hiding . And no I’m not in need of help but maybe you are if you feel this strong about my comment . Having kids in terrible condition is morally wrong and all you need to understand is logic and two braincells which you clearly don’t have so go back to whence you came idiot .

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                    6 months ago

                    How can you say something is morally wrong yet also claim God’s not real? Don’t you see how contradictory that is? We aren’t in a terrible condition to have kids as well. It’s not morally wrong to create another human being.