I think the people downvoting took “quoting Harry Potter sounds like you hate me” as “quoting Harry Potter means you hate trans people” (stated as fact). The OP said this is how it feels to them, we shouldn’t downvote people for sharing how they experienced something.

Also I think people are reading it as “the worst pickup line.” rather than “the worst pickup line (for me as a NB person)”

On the flip side of this, it makes me sad that using fancy words usually just makes you seem pretentious in normal conversations, which has made a lot of cool/interesting words unusable for me. Even words that used to be pretty common, like insipid, will have most people look at you like 🤨

Hopefully people see this and stop posting ragebait 🙏

Especially when saying “no cheese” 8 times means you will definitely be getting cheese

I would’ve agreed with this a few years ago, but when you realize things can have subtle effects on our body that aren’t easy to measure or readily apparent, you shouldn’t fully trust something just because studies say it’s safe. A study can’t really show that “50 years of repeated exposure caused slightly more exhaustion,” for example.

However, we DO know tooth decay is a major health risk for our whole bodies. Avoiding a maybe possibly slightly harmful chemical isn’t stupid, but avoiding something that prevents known and documented dental harm and the effects that has on your entire body, that’s just letting fear override rational thinking.

It takes a “special” kind of person to take something so ingrained in culture and still say “I’m not gonna do that,” usually a slightly crazy and/or neurodivergent person. I think this is partly why there are so many “insane” vegans, because it’s self selecting for people who are outside the norm.

I don’t even mention to most people I’m vegan, usually just an excuse like “meat makes me feel sick” because the average person will think I’m going to give them a 20 minute lecture.

To anyone who is the vegan who will give the 20 minute lecture, please consider if your goal is actually animal welfare, you can hardly ever debate someone out of something they like. Instead, just show people easy dishes you made that they actually enjoy (pasta with spaghetti sauce, French fries, vegetable stir fry, roasted veggies with olive oil) and you’ll often find they start cooking more vegan food (or at least less meat), and also talk more positively about veganism

I appreciate your perspective on this as I have similar feelings/experiences, starting in middle school I didn’t have 1 friend who was a girl for the same reason as you. I wouldn’t worry about what’s “worse,” one or the other they’re both terrible experiences, and I’m sorry you had to go through it.

You are correct, hexbear did defederate from sh.itjust.works about a week after federating with them, so the vote became moot.

The reason you gave is part of the reason hexbear admins gave, but I would take what they say with a grain of salt. I’ve seen people say things like “being trans in thoughts is a much different experiece than being trans in the way you dress, act, and look” and hexbear users will call that transphobic/uninclusive, as well as generally being vitriolic and unpleasant.

As an example, a post where someone says “Biden brings up minimum wage increase and asks other democrats to speak up” will have several comments from hexbear users saying “capitalist bootlickers defending Biden should be shot like the vermin they are.” Maybe some users harassed hexbear users for these comments? I personally didn’t see any but it’s definitely possible.

Actually, there was a vote immediately after the defederation to see whether people wanted lemmygrad refederated, and about 80-90% of the votes were to stay defederated, so it seems the users of sh.itjust.works also don’t like grad.

edit: my mistake, turns out it was hexbear that was voted on, which has similar content

I wonder if studies like these are becoming more relevant due to covid and the disruption it can cause to the immune system long term.

Sometimes very dangerous, as an example a company may pay for security updates for windows XP, but you won’t get these updates. Say someone takes a look at what changed, finds a buffer overflow or other easily exploited bug, embeds that in a program, and pays to have it bundled with some freeware. One of these exploits could even infect you just from visiting a webpage.

Security updates are annoying but they’re the one kind of update Microsoft is actually justified in pushing

I have something similar, and something I noticed was if the air I was breathing was a little cold it made it worse, and a space heater made it better, as well as making sure my back/shoulders were fully covered in a blanket to keep the area around my lungs warm. I’m not sure how humidity affects it but maybe changing that could help too.

I would’ve failed out of highschool but homeschool allowed me to take community college classes that didn’t force 2 hours of busywork every day. If regular schools could deal with different types of students I’d agree, but as it is now that’s not the case.

https://ibb.co/pvk0HWv https://ibb.co/bsPRfyZ https://ibb.co/0Mxd8rr You were being a smartass and then got one-guyed. The community on lemmy seems generally positive with a few crazies, just like everywhere.

Look in that thread and there are plenty of people who ask “how will youtube keep the servers up without ads though?” with reasonable responses such as: torrent-esque video sharing people donating to creators and youtube taking a cut or reasonable issues like: ads cause me a lot of stress and I am not wealthy, does this mean I can never watch a video again? Or read an article or see any online content? Not wanting to support billion dollar megacorps

Getting responded to in kind by 1 guy is not a toxic community, everywhere I’ve seen people ask a question in a normal way 99% of the time they get normal responses

sadly if you try to be a good landlord and make a slim margin, you’ll get dumped a huge repair bill/tax increase/other expense and now you’re running the appartment at a loss. At that point you either sell it to a company willing to exploit it or you have to be less nice to your tenants and ignore repairs or charge more. Most people choose the first which is why we end up with terrible landlords.

aside: heard someone in that exact situation running low income housing, on a phone call with an expert talking to the government. The expert said “any prudent management would raise the rents the maximum allowed amount”

Do you have any example of an “unpopular opinion” that has gotten you banned or any conservative banned? Also, probably the biggest reason I could see conservatives feeling like they’re being “silenced” is because half of their platform is based on being racist(sometimes unintentionally), anti-lgbtq, etc.

The difference being when conservatives say it, 99.999% of the time we see the actual reason they were banned was for saying something like “it sure would be unfortunate if someone accidentally dropped an axe on Nancy Pelosi’s head haha XD” as a figure with wide reach, or something similarly egregious.

Show me something similar happening here and I will also not take their complaints seriously.

https://youtu.be/xECUrlnXCqk?si=Xzwbrme80TNqOBoJ

I don’t know why but I really like this art style!

First, I completely agree with you that it’s incredibly easy to let your weight slip. Just wanted to add that I know many overweight people I have gone out to dinner with, or just been around, that consistently make the wrong choice everywhere they go.

I’m at a restaurant and order something made of say, cucumber lettuce chicken and whole-wheat bread(as someone who is about average weight) The people I’m with order beef patties with mayo on white bread with fries as a side. I just want to shake them and say stop hurting yourself!! But there’s not much I can do when every time I give a healthy alternative they’ll say yuck, give me the processed food instead.

So definitely don’t be hard on yourself if your weight is slipping, but if you’re eating out every day or eating high calorie foods, just try to replace some of those, even with something else unhealthy but less calorie dense.