I can see the concern, as a trans and nonbinary person, about the phrasing of the headline. Casual readers will totally think the actual guidance says “if you fuck up a person’s pronouns, you go to jail” or whatever.

But not the guidance itself. We need more protections against intentional, malicious misgendering as verbal harassment. Which is usually less “she said— oops, they said—“ and more stuff like “(female coworker) put has pronouns in her signature? I thought she was a REAL WOMAN”

(The second being a real example from a friends work place. Funny thing is, friend is stealth trans and the coworker being misgendered is cis, but i digress)

But yeah all that aside I think the real context is misgendering when someone needs the bathroom, e.g. “you’re in the wrong bathroom” type comments. Where we really need stronger protections.

We’re not talking about hair colour though, this is obviously reducing a pic of some friends to “haha big booba small booba”. That’s kind of textbook objectification.

I have a few conditions that affect my spoon usage, like autism/ADHD and mild chronic fatigue. But I’m also pregnant, which means every day I put N+1 spoons into the “avoid nausea” drawer, and there’s a steadily increasing multiplier on any activity that means I have to walk places. Lately being vertical too long costs a bit o spoon.

All this to say that yesterday my husband sent me this comic and I immediately replied “that’s me”.

(A good percentage of his messages to me consist of Foxes in Love comics, and they are ALWAYS incredibly accurate)

queerness intensifies

I’ve got a few projects in the works, one of which was graciously donated by universal entropy over the weekend! The normal projects are fixing up a very overgrown back garden and redoing basically every surface of our soon-to-be main bedroom. The “spontaneous” project gifted by reality is redoing the inner mechanism of our toilet, along with fixing one of the seals.

More details on the garden: I’ve just been pruning stuff WAY back for months whenever I can. Despite the slow progress, it’s definitely a huge improvement. My goal is to have the back garden (or back yard as my American heritage calls it) ready for planting a proper food oasis in Spring. So far, I’ve got the flat space for garden beds cleared, as there was a truly massive hedge covering most of the garden. I’ve also pulled up some paving tiles and started removing gravel from the main walkway. More space to plant without these silly rocks. I hate gravel.

On the bedroom: My wood floors have been “acclimatising” for like, months, which concerns me a bit… hopefully no warping! I pulled the old baseboards/skirting boards off the wall ages ago (and then spent forever filling the holes and gaps underneath with plaster) in preparation for painting the walls a lovely azure colour, and it’s just been fighting to get the time to actually paint the dang walls. We haven’t even done the base coat yet, but maybe this weekend. I just started a new 4 day work week job, so hopefully that extra day becomes a DIY day properly.

The dreaded toilet: On Friday we woke up to no water because a main pipe burst in town. And then when we got water back, the toilet’s fill valve decided to compensate for lost time by never stopping filling. Doesn’t matter how high the float goes, it just doesn’t stop. We’ve also had issues before with the toilet seal leaking, so we’re killing two birds with one stone by fixing the seal as we replace the fill valve. Fingers crossed. Right now the two birds are killing us instead.