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  • Seems like a solid article.

    I would have loved to see more said about the effort required to move from having traditional relationships to ENM relationships. Something about the article being a Dos and Don’ts makes me feel it’s targeted at newcomers, and having a healthy respect for how big that leap is could be really helpful.

    I found a ton of the information in Poly Secure by Jessica Fern to be just what I needed when I read it.












  • One game I played a few years ago had a really neat rule that I’ve used in a lot of other games and contexts.

    The game came with a 1 minute sand timer that didn’t have to be used to play the game. But the rules said “If any player feels like the turn is taking too long, they can turn over this timer. This is a signal to the current player that they should wrap things up”. I can’t recall which game it was. Codename, I think? I’m sure someone here will let us know.

    I’ve used that rule in a lot of different places. If you have a healthy relationship with your co-workers, it makes for a really useful tool for keeping meetings rolling. We occasionally mime turning over the same timer to each other to say “I respect what you’re saying, please continue, but also let’s get this back on track”.

    I’ve also ported it to many boardgames. In my circle of players, turning over an imaginary sand timer is a way of politely saying “we like playing with you, but we’re feeling bored so please make a turn”.

    Maybe something like that can work for your group? It requires some communication up front to ensure that people know the spirit of what’s being communicated.

    Edit: re-reading this, I’m not sure I conveyed what I was suggesting well. Cosmic Encounters has a 1 minute timer you’re supposed to use. I’m suggesting making that timer optional. Let people barter until someone at the table feels like enough time has passed, then flip the timer as a polite way of saying “please wrap it up”.