I can’t relate as well, as I live in a city where things are really really aafe. But there are places where a women are afraid to walk alone in the dark, even for a few steps. (And even in safe places some people are quite afraid)

I’d be very careful with remote diagnosis. You. might be right, she needs therapy. She might just be afraid, because something bad happened to her some time.

The only way is for OP to have a good talk with her what’s bothering her - and then he may come to a conclusion. As of now, there’s just not enough information.

I’m 53 now and was considering getting an official diagnosis a few years ago, I even had the initial appointments set up.

I canceled it, because there was too much going on in my life at that moment (even got a notification I could reschedule for later)

All that made me think about what I was hoping for from diagnosis. In the end it was just having something in writing that would help me with self-acceptance.

Around that time I also was in a group psychotherapy so I talked about that and that part is now solved.

Regarding meds - I don’t want to try them now as my other coping strategies are good enough at the moment and I’m a bit wary of side effects as I need to take a handful of. medicine every day, anyways.

In the end you need to decide why you want a diagnosis. If you want to try meds I’d go for it. (My son “inherited” it from me and had meds for a time, which really helped him).

In a case like mine where I didn’t expect any new strategies out of it or didn’t want meds - it was probably the right decision to skip it.

Oh man, you should ALSO have taken off 1.1.1970 (IIRC) to get that day off.

Bernie and Ert

https://youtu.be/SSD0e5JCVAk?si=AYe5cMTDCiyF3oYo

Jon needs a carbon monoxide detector and a new oven.

Now I am completely unsure whether to call this a dad joke.

https://youtu.be/0XOKvFyNquM?si=3vnkLur3A79V3J9q

The footrest is still there in a manual car. The brake pedal is smaller, the clutch in between.

When you brake you hit the clutch with the left foot and brake with the right one on the brake pedal. Unintentionally smashing the wider brake pedal can happen if you switch from a smaller car to one with a very wide brake pedal. (Mercedes have quite wide brake pedals, for example)

It also happened a few times to me over my. life until I got used to put my left foot very close to the seat when driving automatic, so I don’t subconsciously use it. (Just “away” from where I’d have it in a manual car)

It typically happens if you need to do emergency braking anyways and just all the reflexes kick in. In normal situations it never happened to me.

As gas stations have enough room for more expensive “ultimate” versions of fuel, I don’t think that’s the reason. You can frequently get two kinds of Diesel and three kinds of Gas at the pump.

O. t. o. h…maybe the whole “premium fuel” hype resulted from stations having additional tanks after leaded fuel was phased out.

Tbh, I have no idea. The whole of Europe was late to this. The first catalytic conveter cars were sold in 1973 in the US and 1985 in Germany.

Switzerland made them obligatory in 1986, Germany made them obligatory only in 1993 - because that was an EU-wide regulation.

The only thing I can imagine is the big political influence car makers have in Germany, but that’s just “what sounds reasonable to me”, no proof.

Wow. Sleep - it isn’t as I try to get good sleep every day, but the moment I lie down my brain gets into overdrive.

Exercise - great. If I wasn’t bored to death while doing exercise it might work.

Music - great. I get headphones and start vibing to the music, forgetting what I wanted to do in the first place, but I apply creativity and make AMAZAING playlists…

Really, who ever wrote all that down has no ideas what ADHD is. These are calming ideas for normies.

Watching funny movies - yep, I do that for four or six hours at a time, but it doesn’t make me more productive.

Sun - hmm, all the vitamins I take haven’t cured me, neither did crusing in my old convertible getting sunburn on my neck and arms

Pets - You really want a pet to stay at my place, where I have to regularly take care about them? Poor pet. I might forget feeding for a few days. O. t. o. h. I have a lot of plants, every single one quite drought resistant by natural selection.

Stay positive - yeah, as long as my impulsivivity isn’t giving me intrusive ideas.

Ok, I have lived all my life with my own ADHD brain, and I really do have a number of strategies that help. But crap like this guide trivializes the struggle and it doesn’t make me calm, it just makes me angry.

STOP TRIVIALIZING.

Fuck, Germany introduced unleaded fuel only in 1984 and still offered leaded fuel for a long time.

It was required because of the introduction of catalytic converters, which would get damaged by lead in the fuel.

When I was at Bundeswehr I was in hospital for some time and got some thorough diagnosis. They asked me if I worked with lead in the past (no), so I seem to have at least some lead levels in my body.

(Can’t think of a I AM NOT CRAZY pun right now)

Exactly this thought made made me understand “god is irrelevant” a long time ago and I became an agnosticist.

I really can not understand people who are only “good” because they fear an ultimate judgment, and not be good just because they want to out of their own volition.

In case there are gods, I’ll be judged for who I am, anyways. It doesn’t matter if I play “good child”. If there are no gods, I’m still happier if I’m not an asshole.

He’s in General Error’s unit.

Oh, fuck ist it Boeing coffee?

I used expect a lifetime ago to reliably talk to a bunch of very strange ISDN modems.

https://www.tcl.tk/man/expect5.31/expect.1.html

I think something like expect also exists for more modern languages, but tcl is still easy enough to learn (just a little unusual, everything is a string)

Don’t you know how to use the three seashells?

5 year old me after it bounces back from my finger I accidentally put there- agaaaain! agaaain!

And the stupidest of all car owners is not smarter than a 5y old kid.

Do we also have something like r/dontputyourdickinthat on lemmy?

“If you’ve got, at scale, a statistically significant amount of data that shows conclusively that the autonomous car has, let’s say, half the accident rate of a human-driven car, I think that’s difficult to ignore,” Musk said.

That’s a very problematic claim - and it might only be true if you compare completely unassited vehicles to L2 Teslas.

Other brands also have a plethora of L2 features, but they are marketed and designed in a different way. The L2 features are activate but designed in a way to keep the driver engaged in driving.

So L2 features are for better safety, not for a “wow we live in the future” show effect.

For example lane keeping in my car - you don’t notice it when driving, it is just below your level of attention. But when I’m unconcentrated for a moment the car just stays on the lane, even on curving roads. It’s just designed to steer a bit later than I would do. (Also, even before, the wheel turns minimally lighter into the direction to keep the car center of lane, than turning it to the other direction - it’s just below what you notice, however if you don’t concentrate on that effect)

Adaptive speed control is just sold as adaptive speed control - it did notice it uses radar AND the cameras once, as it considers. my lane free as soon the car in front me clears the lane markings with its wheels (when changing lanes)

It feels like the software in my car could do a lot more, but its features are undersold.

The combination of a human driver and the driver assist systems in combination makes driving a lot safer than relying on the human or the machine alone.

In fact the braking assistant has once stopped my car in tight traffic before I could even react, as the guy in front of me suddenly slammed their brakes. If the system had failed and not detected the situation then it would have been my job to react in time. (I did react, but can’t say if I might have been fast enough with reaction times)

What Tesla does with technology is impressive, but I feel the system could be so. much better if they didn’t compromise saftey in the name of marketing and hyperbole.

If Tesla’s Autopilot was designed frim ground up to keep the driver engaged, I believe it would really be the safest car on the road.

I feel they are rather designed to be able to show off “cool stuff”.