my bad, i misunderstood. thanks.

i don’t think we disagree in a vacuum but bringing that up in the context of this particular thread is probably unhelpful

beehaw is a safe-space, we shouldnt villify the experiences/needs of people who need alt-text. this could be game changing for people who need it.

Months ago you mentioned a Bumble-like app designed specifically for queer people, do you remember it? 👀 A person could post about events like a queer cinema night out.

so cool man, thanks for sharing this

if it makes you happy, use the term. no need to get caught up in all this nonsense unless you see it’s hurting somebody (which im sure it isnt) :p

i doubt you’ll get banned lol, it’s probably not that deep to the admins.

if anyone is concerned about it, just open the instance ToS and ctrl+f “name”. im sure it’s not important.

i did not know any of this, thanks for sharing

i think you should read the replies to the hackernews post, there’s some interesting discussion there with more nuance. particularly the thread started by user “kens”

not to come off overly negative- steve also does great work. i hope we hear from LMG soon <3

not to cast doubt on anything he says here, but steve has increasingly been making ‘dunk’ videos for the past year or two. i feel like his channel has been trying to find (or create) exposés, because those are the videos that pop off. starting from the video of that NZXT case that caused fires.

again, not to cast doubt on the experiences of billet labs, but i question steve’s intentions in presenting this. i hope this discussion doesn’t end up revolving around gamers nexus.

i just tried this and got a more fence-sitting result of “here are the pros and cons, there should be public discussion before we know if it’s good or bad”.

but your result is fascinating.

seconded

carefully

so good ty <3

idk about the actual reason, but it’s easier for me to recognise that someone is specifying pronouns when it’s ‘she/her’ instead of just ‘she’

youtube music shilling incoming, ignore if dont care :p

awesome if you’re a spotify user, but to anyone on the fence, youtube music is just so much comfier. and if you’re a privacy advocate or anything adjacent, i’m sure you’re still using youtube in some way anyway so you may as well cut out spotify, another exploitative company, and just leave yourself with youtube.

there are plenty of free services that let you convert spotify playlists into youtube music ones, and you can listen to them using mobile frontends like InnerTune or web frontends like HyperPipe. free offline listening, no ads, good frontends, it’s just comfy and you can cut out a dependency on spotify. besides, if you do end up ever trying to export anything from your spotify (playlists, downloading songs, etc), chances are it’ll use the youtube api anyway.

it’s comfyyyyy

change your name right now to devil jamie

just to add, inflammatory people aren’t interested in ‘debate’ and that goes for both sides of an argument. chances are, you have no intention to change your position and neither do they. and that’s fine. but a person should realise that at best, you’re wasting your time. at worst, you’re equipping them with more ways to argue with the next person who may not be as secure as you are. if you’re debating, aim to change the perspectives of onlookers. don’t do it without an audience unless the person you’re talking to is truly discussing in good faith.

it’s still good to learn these things so that you can recognise patterns when people discuss this stuff with you. if someone is discussing trans healthcare and brings up the ‘dangers’ of a medical transition, chances are they’re uneducated and you should move on. or, if there’s an audience you think you can reach, stage the discussion and cater it to them.

approaching these things from a winning/losing perspective can also be damaging to you, let’s try to be healthy in our discussions :p

idk too much, if im being ignorant let me know coooooool

to add some nuance to this, if anyone would like to listen. a cry from a cishet to the cishets.

beehaw platforms safe spaces. within that, this is a community for queer people. coming into this discussion as someone that isn’t queer, a person needs to be aware of the nature of safe spaces. this isn’t the same as seeing a post from r/cars on the front page of reddit and adding to the discussion that trains are more convenient for you. to queer people, many of these discussions are existential in nature. this will not carry the same weight to you, because it does not impact you in the same way- if at all.

take a moment to reflect on how irritating it is to see average people turn into experts on twitter whenever a new topic is trending. understand that in queer discussion, you are that person, but your words aren’t simply annoying, they’re harmful.

a common response to this is “well you can’t have discussion with only people that agree with you, that’s an echo chamber!”. sure, you can put 100 men into a discussion about feminism and hear a hundred different opinions, but none of them will be a womans. there’s enough cishets discussing this, respect that this space is designed to amplify the voices of the minority.

stay quiet, recognise that you have privilege blindspots, and say “thanks for sharing”.