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  • This is a massive rant with no points related to the actual conversation at hand, sort of just 5 or 6 point thrown out without extrapolation.

    I think I get the general gist of what you’re pointing to, but I just don’t see it. People said ‘if you support Trump (who actively said racist, misogynistic, and deplorable things) then you support those people/ideologies’ and that’s not even an insult, it’s a fact.

    There’s no flood of media im seeing saying ‘all boys are bad and should feel bad’. I AM seeing a flood of “men aren’t being held accountable for their actions, and that’s influencing how young boys perceive the outcomes”















  • Please and thank you don’t violate barriers. It does not allow someone into your space, you don’t have to give anything of yourself to say them, and if you’re a good person you probably mean them. A better example for what you’re looking for would be handshakes. It’s common in most western cultures at several social functions, and it can be considered rather rude to refuse one, it got a lot of folks angry during covid apparently. That’s where two parties acknowledge the social bindings that call for a physical touch establishing a mutual respect. I never miss saying a please and thank you, but best believe I’m still doing the ‘covid shrug’ when I turn down handshakes.

    So, you’d tell your child that “yes, you have autonomy in this, but your feelings regarding your need for personal space matter less than your grandmother’s want for a hug” is what I’m gathering? Do you educate your mother on the child’s wants/needs? There’s a reason why people are educated that, as far as physical touch is concerned, nobody else’s feelings should be taken into account. If someone can’t love a child without hugs, then I don’t think they really understand the concept or application of love.

    I’m not saying this is your case, the next bit is an extreme but important to the overall argument, I think. People have identified that exact thinking pattern in why they didn’t report sexual assault from a family member. Because they weren’t taught how to properly say no and why the right to refuse touch is important, it was that much easier to abuse them.