• remotelove@lemmy.ca
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    11 months ago

    Well … yeah. It can be reality in a lot of cases.

    I am not knocking you or anything, and I don’t like getting serious in a meme community, but anyone that has worked through an addiction knows what is going on here. My life was absolute hell for at least 6 months or so after I quit drinking. It took a year after that to just get my ass back in gear. (I don’t count days, so I really don’t know how long I haven’t been drinking, TBH.)

    So yeah. It’s shitty. However, it’s a dark truth with some dark humor. I get it.

    Edit: I just remembered the reason why I don’t count sobriety days: It keeps me firmly planted in the here and now. For me, all I can do is not drink today and that is all that really matters. Many people may disagree with my methodology, but it’s my own way to cope and it has been working so far.

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      11 months ago

      I just feel like it’s more anti-sobriety than dark humor. I don’t know anyone who regrets getting sober

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        Think of it as truth in its purest form. I absolutely do not regret getting sober but it took a while to get to that point. For anyone else trying to sober up, the sooner the hard realities of life are accepted, the easier it is to move forward.

        I am not sure if you get the underlying joke of the meme, but I’ll explain it for anyone that wants to know.

        A common saying in AA (and NA) is that alcoholics have one foot in the future, one foot in the past and are never in the now. According to AA lore, that is one of the primary drivers of the insanity that is alcoholism.

        That has a few heavily nested meanings but the one that applies here is that past events, or worrying about the future is the reason we constantly try to escape the anxiety of dealing with those issues now with various chemicals. Once the drugs and alcohol are removed as a crutch, that makes the current moment one of the most difficult and terrifying things to face.

        The reality of now is something that recovering alcoholics and addicts must face, one way or another. As life moves forward, recovery gets easier and problems becoming less difficult. With practice, those past problems will almost seem insignificant.

        So, the “dark humor” aspect of this is that the issues we thought were huge and potentially life ending are usually not as dire as we thought to begin with. (I am excluding issues that could potentially be life ending, of course.) Most people in recovery can relate to this meme and probably chuckle a little when thinking back on it. ie: “I used to be worried about that trivial shit? Lol!”

        After all that is said, it’s a reminder of an accomplishment. It’s also relating to what many people are going through and reminding them that they are not alone. Yes, it can be negative. However, it’s not as anti-sobriety as it seems on the surface.

        (There are a million-and-one caveats to what I am saying! This meme can mean many different things to many different people.)

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      Yeah, cut meth coke and crack in one fell swoop. I’d say 3 weeks of pure agony, and 7 months of picking up the pieces of my life, another 3 years gluing them all together again.

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        You are here now, so that is awesome!

        That first week though… I don’t remember much of it. Granted, there are huge differences between alcohol and amphetamine withdrawals, but I get it. Thankfully, I didn’t need to check myself into detox this time around and was able to ride it out. I just know that I won’t be that lucky next time as my addiction got progressively worse after every quit attempt over the years.

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          I’d say alcohol is actually harder. Same with cigarettes. I kicked meth coke/crack and heroine, still smoking cigarettes. Because it’s still so socially acceptable to smoke and drink, it’s a lot harder to cut out of your life. For me, when I decided that enough was enough, I deleted all my contacts and got a different phone number. Can’t exactly do that for the liquor store down the block, or get every smoker in the city to give you a wide berth.

          We’ve all got our path, and very few people get to traipse through life with no issues to deal with. I’m glad you recognise your pattern, and are trying to change your path. I’m not on here loads, but if you need someone to shoot the shit with or whatever, just shoot me a DM.

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      It has been 3 years mostly sober for me. I say mostly because I slip up about twice a year because of how fucking bad it gets between addiction and depression. The six month mark is about when it gets nearly unbearable for me and this damn disease won’t let me stop thinking about it.

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      I wish you luck with it. I know people that have gone through this and it’s not easy. I think we’re all addicted to something - food, sex, chocolate, TV, the internet, you name it. That’s kind of how our brains are wired up.

      Taking it one day at a time is the only realistic approach, but I hope that you are increasingly successful in getting where you want to be.

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      Does Daniel Craig have a history of substance abuse and getting sober?

      I’m confused because of the picture. Why not use a stock image or, if you want a celebrity, Charlie Sheen comes to mind.