What are we going to do about it?
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Similar. I had a community from 2001 onward where I was variously an admin and a mod over the decades. A lot of us drifted apart from being kids exploring the internet to adults with families and careers.
But mainly the guy that took over the code maintenance became the sole admin in 2018 and he just chased everyone off the site debatebroing with increasingly racist and misogynistic rants. Dude I played games with and talked with online for 20 years started calling me a genocidal enslaver for trying to explain CRT and want solar power in America.
I kind of don’t ever want a family or a career because it seems like you lose out on the ability to do anything fun
I did a lot of the fun in my teens and twenties, and then realized I wanted a family and was lucky to find a career that fit.
It’s definitely a challenge to find a balance though so it can often feel like a trade-in. But if you’re honest with yourself it doesn’t have to be nor an unwanted change.
I feel like the way Society is built makes it impossible to have a family and have fun in your life, and careers are basically dead. We have to figure out how to make it work because I’m certainly in no hurry to make raising kids the only thing I do with the rest of my life
I get you. For me after my grandparents passed I realized I wanted to be a grandparent. So I gotta play by some of society’s stupid rules to see if I can see that through.
Careerwise: biggest thing for me was jumping into public service and working in local government–in America, no less. Now I work remotely and have a well-compensated union-represented government job with a pension that doesn’t require me to do management or have a medical or law degree.
I knew to steer clear of the Fed too, and that’s paid off in spades.
All in all though as a former kid and current parent: kids need their cool aunts and uncles, related or not, out there having fun not making them cousins. So there’s zero shame in having no rush or desire for trying to strike that balance.