• pahlimur@lemmy.world
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      5 hours ago

      We generally don’t hate people from red states, I’m in Oregon. We see them like a kid that won’t stop touching a hot stove. It’s more a disappointment than a “fuck em”.

      Like maybe they are just stupid?

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        Apparently you’ve never had people tell you that you don’t matter because you’re from a red state. I’m trans, stuck in a red state, and get to have people tell me I deserve what the state is doing to me and my trans siblings because we were born here.

        Obviously Texas wouldn’t be so red if we would just vote for Democrats, right? Therefore, we must be part of the problem! As long as one person votes blue then that cancels out all the red votes so we really have no one to blame but ourselves!

        I voted blue. Fuck you.

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          Apparently you’ve never had people tell you that you don’t matter because you’re from a red state. I’m trans, stuck in a red state, and get to have people tell me I deserve what the state is doing to me and my trans siblings because we were born here.

          Girl, that is absolutely bullshit, I am so sorry to hear that. I have family in both Alberta and Saskatchewan (Canada’s blindly right-wing provinces) and it is brutal if you’re not white, male, and hetero. Even moreso if you’re visually not one of those things, and you’re in a rural area.

          One of my kids is trans, and we’re about to get a Con federal government, so we’re pretty worried for her. Who knows what care will be removed when Canada’s Trump Loving Party takes over (the Conservatives are looking like they’ll get a majority).

          (For anyone who doesn’t know our parties, that’s the Federal Liberal Party (Centre/Centre-Left Wing), Conservative Party of Canada (Right Wing), New Democratic Party (Centre-Left/Left Wing), Bloc Québécois (far tougher to describe. They swing from Right to Left Wing.)

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          Could you share more about your trans siblings? I had understood that being transgender was relatively uncommon, and I realize there may be genetic or other factors involved. It’s new to me that multiple members of a family might identify this way, and I’d love to learn more if you’re open to sharing. Thanks!

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            This isn’t about people who are trans, but there is a fascinating thing called the Fraternal Birth Order, where every male child a mother has, their likelihood of being gay goes up significantly.

            Twenty years ago, Ray Blanchard and Anthony Bogaert demonstrated that the probability of a boy growing up to be gay increases for each older brother born to the same mother, the so-called fraternal birth order (FBO) effect. Their first investigation indicated that each older brother increased the probability of being gay by about 33% (1). This startling phenomenon was confirmed in multiple studies based on independent populations totaling over 10,000 subjects, and a meta-analysis indicated that between 15% and 29% of gay men owe their sexual orientation to this effect

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            You misunderstood, heh. It’s not uncommon for people in the trans community to refer to other members as “siblings” or “brothers and sisters” regardless of actual blood relationship.

            That said, my sister is non-binary and I’m pretty sure my mom is heavily closeted based on a number of things she’s said to me after I came out.

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        Maybe. How many times does a kid have to burn himself on a hot stove before we accept that he’s just stupid and a lost cause?

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          Never. But we can still be disappointed. Not everyone in red states sucks, the majority of them seem to though.

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            Never.

            Alright, well, keep hoping that they’ll stop burning their hand on the stove one day. Seems like a waste of time and energy, but that’s up to you.

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                Only two possible solutions I can think of. The first is balkanize. Let each group of like-minded people form their own, autonomous nation states, where they can all do things the way they want without interference from others. The second is the reasonable, rational, educated people take complete control of the federal government and force all the states to adopt the policies that have proven to work best.

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                  I like your ideas. Unfortunately, idk if Balkinization would be an option, especially under this regime and with states like California a being huge part of the nation’s overall budget. This would give some areas huge advantages (west coast) and some areas very little to work with (south). Also, with the political divisions right now, I wonder if the nation states would be able to compromise with regards to trade and immigration/tourism. It would be so nice if we could just break up like that. Sometimes a break up is the healthiest thing you can do for all parties involved…

                  As for that second part… I’ll keep dreaming of that day…