I wish I could be like a programmer that did some work for my dad.
My dad, being an asshole, would start telling and screaming when he wasn’t happy. The programmer would just stop and quietly say that he needed to calm down. It drove my dad ABSOLUTELY INSANE, but there was nothing he could do. He’d have to choke back his rage, calm down, and ask nicely.
I wish I could do that, but when people yell at me, I yell back.
To an extent; you can’t be nice to someone if they always yell and scream and demean you
On those cases, walking away and not fueling their fire is being nice… to yourself. You don’t deserve to be yelled at or demeaned.
Be nice, but stand up for and defend yourself.
Nothing upsets people more than when you refuse to match their emotional state though. Kill them with kindness.
I wish I could be like a programmer that did some work for my dad.
My dad, being an asshole, would start telling and screaming when he wasn’t happy. The programmer would just stop and quietly say that he needed to calm down. It drove my dad ABSOLUTELY INSANE, but there was nothing he could do. He’d have to choke back his rage, calm down, and ask nicely.
I wish I could do that, but when people yell at me, I yell back.
You definitely can be nice to such people.
You were preoccupied with whether you could, that you forgot to consider whether you should.